After fours hours of driving I am tired and I don’t want to
go running. But I know I will feel energised if I shake off the lethargy of an
indulgent weekend, so it’s an easy fight to win for the Lycra lout in my mind.
I pull on my broken running shoes, muddied from a Yorkshire field, and step
into the corridor. I jog down the five flights of stairs, feeling the breeze
from the open window where smokers often gather. The sharp smell of old vomit lingers from a week ago when an
over-refreshed merry maker saluted the evening by voiding their stomach across
the landing. Past the invisible crime scene and I am out into the courtyard.
Here, beneath the windows of 90 flats, I always feel I am
being watched. Each day I have to suppress the urge to perform a ludicrous
dance routine, or the brutal slaying of an imagined foe, before spreading my
arms wide and shouting up to an unseen audience, “Are you not entertained?”
The hustle and bustle
The streets are dark and loud. Traffic bunches at the
lights, belching heavy fumes. Buses’ brakes squeal too close and startle this
rural refugee. Adjusting back to the hustle and bustle, what a contrast from
yesterday’s run across farmland in the frosty dawn. Past Kingsland Shopping
centre, where Sainsbury’s and Matalan lie slumbering after a busy weekend
pumping out goods. I follow the curve of Dalston Lane, slowing to avoid a
collision with kids surfing the pavement on their bikes. Further ahead,
pedestrians are corralled between the plastic fences guiding them past road
works. I swing left and run towards the traffic to avoid being trapped.
It is hard to find a rhythm. There are obstacles to be
dodged and pauses that are impossible to prevent. After the busy junction at
Hackney Downs, where the lights of the Pembury Tavern illuminate Sunday
drinkers enjoying a pint of cider, I stretch my legs up the gentle incline
towards Clapton. Concrete rears up on either side of me. The presence of nature
is restricted to a patch of grass or a tree guarded by pavement slab sentries.
But there is life everywhere. I can feel the city buzzing with energy and it
seeps into me, rolling around on the floor, locked in a struggle with the residual countryside calm.
Past Lea Bridge roundabout and the old tram depot, towards
Stamford Hill and the heartland of London’s Orthodox Jewish community. My
breathing is laboured, I feel over-stimulated by the myriad distractions on the
streets, and I can’t find my stride.
Acknowledging emotions
I turn the corner at the junction and run downhill towards
Stoke Newington. As I run, I think about how 2013 has begun. It has been busy; going on holiday, new projects at work, the sale of my late mother's house falling through and the subsequent search for a new buyer, appeasing the taxman from the year I spent self-employed, finding a new flatmate to replace our outgoing friend. Perhaps I have not stopped to ask how I feel. I have been so caught
up in events that I forgot to acknowledge the sadness. There has been
a piece ripped out of me, things are not the same and never will be. My Mum is
dead. It still sounds wrong to say that and 6 months on I am still shocked by
the harsh reality of this cold fact. Grief is a lonely place. Rightly or wrongly, I feel that there are
few people who can relate and so I don’t share my feelings often. Few people
ask how I am and if they do their timing is probably wrong and I am not in the
mood for a heartfelt chat. It is hard for friends and colleagues to get it
right. I don’t blame them for treading carefully around powerful emotions. If a
person who has gone through a trauma appears okay then why encourage wailing
and gnashing of teeth? It is almost impossible for a person to judge the appropriate time to ask, I mean to really ask, “How are you?” But, if by some
miracle of intuition they choose the right moment then it can be a great relief
to have the opportunity to unburden. It is necessary to restrict one’s
vulnerable moments in order to survive in the manic circus of the city. We wear armour around our hearts and face the world with a mask projecting how we would
like to be seen. But it’s okay to vent sometimes. In fact it’s necessary. And
if the usually taciturn Robert De Niro can express his emotions publicly, like he did recently on a TV chat show, then
there is hope for all of us.
By the time I reach Stoke Newington High Street I have put the world to rights inside my head. The bright lights of
KFC seem to sneer at the bourgeois enclave of Church Street where TV producers
pay £59 for the best flat white. Onwards towards the strip of Turkish
restaurants, packed with Sunday trade, and the bars and clubs forming the
backbone of Dalston’s nightlife. Moustache Bar, Efes, Alibi, Dalston
Superstore; now all is quiet on the Eastern front but last night these venues
would have been the trenches where drunken revelry was waged. I feel my stride
lengthen as I am nearing home. My mood is lifted and a blockage has been
shifted. I stand before the challenge and accept it. I am ready for another
week.
You can see my loop around Hackney here
This weekend sees the final fixture in the Met League cross country calendar. Check back to hear more muddy tales....
This weekend sees the final fixture in the Met League cross country calendar. Check back to hear more muddy tales....